How to help your depressive partner

Being a depressed person’s partner can be frustrating and sad sometimes. We don’t know what to do, how to act, we believe that everything we do it’s wrong or they are gonna feel worse when actually everything we do it’s to make them comfortable.

I want to give you some tips for you to help your loved one as he/she deserves in this very difficult times.

Depressed people stop caring theirselves, as I always say, they can’t even hold a hair brush to comb the hair. Getting a shower is a challenge, a haircut, going to a doctor’s appointment, everything is too hard, in their minds they think that they are not good enough to be “spoiled”. They think “I am now a disaster, no one could love me.” Help your loved one to be active. Tell him/her, ” I’ll do the dishes, why don’t you take a bath?” .

If your partner is depressed there are two things can happen, they can eat too little or they may overeat. They order food online, etc. That’s easier than cooking a healthy menu. Eating this way or not eating only degrade your partner’s health causing a deeper depression. Help your spouse to keep her/his body healthy, do it in a subtle way, don’t make him/ her feel intimidated.

Joke with him/her, make silly jokes, watch a comedy movie. Laughing releases endorphins. Studies shows that laugh could counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

Depressed people refuse to be touched, Hug your partner.

Go with him/her outdoors, it’s beneficial for depressed patients, the sun, the air, etc. This is possibly the last thing on earth that your spouse wanna do. Take him/her to the mountain, the beach… Prepare a picnic and lay down in the sun, do a little garden, ride a bike with her. As you know, sun increases production of vitamin D, which can help relieve depression .

When a person begins a spiral of depression they feel everything stops while the world around speeds up. The mail is stored, the dishes pile up in the sink, so the laundry, depressed individuals begin to feel increasingly overwhelmed by the daily routine. Help your partner and keep the chaos under control.

Ask them to help to understand what they are feeling. If your partner is able to verbalize what is happening maybe they can give you an idea of an action plan to help your loved one.

Your partner feels useless, sometimes angry and even guilty when he/she is depressed. They think that they will end their days alone. Let them know that you’ll be there forever and you will not be scared at all 🙂

Remind them why you love them. Look at the pictures both of you had when you were happy. Remember the things you have in common, why you fell in love, all the positive things that you shared, tell her/him you love her/him and that SHE/HE WILL BE ALL RIGHT.