Love and Depression

Lots of patients come to my office due to unrequited love.

When I worked at the hospital hundreds of them came urgently with acute anxiety with this issue. Unrequited love is not a “roll”. “Unrequited love” seems something like the century of Gustavo Adolfo Becquer, composing poetry for your beloved. Infatuation and love can be horrible, feeling the agony when love is not reciprocated, when the focus of your love sees you as “just a friend” (or not even that). Normally they tell you they are “not at that point in their lives” or “You are a wonderful person.” Most of us experience the pain of unrequited love at some point in our lives. But for some people that love becomes an obsession. Their lifes lose their meaning without those people to their side, they don’t feel complete. This can end up in depression.

Some symptoms are:
That love will not let you do your normal daily routine. Everything reminds you of him, a song, a meal, a flower. You even dream about that person constantly
Chest literally hurts
You can not sleep or concentrate at work.
Apathy.
Anxiety.
Depression.

What can you do about it?

Here you have some things you can do to reduce or even stop pain.

Face it, stop acting like a teenager. Forgive me if I sound harsh, but it is the raw true.
Love is romantic, those moments of absolute transcendental connection and empathy with the other person is like… something spiritual. We got carried away, but everything has to have a practical basis.
We have been brainwashed by movies, novels, songs, we believe that the other person is a fallen star. Do not fall for this. How long have you spent on delusions about this person?, be realistic.

“If only we could see us … Only a few minutes, if we could talk …” Bullshit, claptrap. Stop it, now.

Enough !. Sometimes you have to know when to say enough, that’s the first step to success.
When we have patients “at risk” should be taken pharmacological measures either to anxiety, to sleep disorders or even once you pass to mourning for depression. Speaking in psychiatrist terms we are talking about an Adjustment
Disorder.
An addiction or an obsession becomes dangerous when the object of both does not let you to do or continue with your daily lives without them. Nicotine, food, alcohol, cocaine, shopping, people, etc.